You know those people who seem to have their lives so completely put together? They’re the people who always arrive at a party, for example, dressed as though they just stepped out of a magazine cover photo, whereas the rest of us are still searching around in our laundry basket for the other sock. But here’s a thought: What if the actual strength lies in letting ourselves fall apart at times rather than in always keeping it all together?

What if vulnerability, often seen as a weakness, is actually the very thing that makes us stronger?

I learned this lesson firsthand in my own journey through cancer. Initially, admitting I was scared felt like defeat. In my book, “Living Brave,” however, I explore how my vulnerabilities—the moments of fear, uncertainty, and doubt—became my greatest source of strength. There is profound power in embracing the affliction of being human, especially during a challenging battle like cancer.

You must have heard of survivors like Lance Armstrong, who found strength in sharing the openness of his struggles. He fought cancer, but he talked about it, connecting with millions. It was from there that he gave them permission to be vulnerable as well, to speak, and to ask for help.

Thus says Brené Brown—who has done immense research on vulnerability. It is only in that open moment that we really are courageous. Vulnerability is not a weakness but a powerful force for healing, connection, and growth. It is the willingness to be seen as we are, not as we pretend we’re supposed to be.

Next time life gets overwhelming, remind yourself: it is perfectly fine to fall apart. In fact, embracing your vulnerability might just unlock the key to your hidden strength and resilience.